The Mediocrity Definition:
Here’s the Mediocrity Definition as given by http://www.merriam-webster.com/dictionary/mediocrity
The quality of something that is not very good.
A person who does not have the special ability to do something well.
It doesn’t sound too appealing, does it?
Why on Earth would anybody want to be…mediocre?
And yet, so many of you go through life repeating the same mediocre routines, doing the same mediocre activities (if they can be called that), and having the same mediocre conversations with the same mediocre friends (if they can be called that).
You do nothing to attempt to rise above your mediocrity.
Here’s an example of the mediocrity definition as it pertains to people:
Maybe you have a job. Good for you. You’re common.
Maybe you have a college education and a mortgage. Congratulations, you have reached the pinnacle of mediocrity.
But even the pinnacle of mediocrity is still low.
You’re average, you’re boring, and you are mediocrity personified.
Hopefully, you’ve had enough of this and are ready to change.
To Escape Mediocrity, You Must Pursue its Opposite
The truth is this; if you want to escape mediocrity, then you must pursue its exact opposite.
And, if the mediocrity definition is not very good, then the opposite of mediocrity is…excellence.
To differentiate yourself you must always strive to better yourself.
Don’t dabble in this, make it an all-out assault on your averageness.
Declare war on everything un-extraordinary and pledge to making everything exceptional.
With this mindset in place, here are some specific strategies to employ:
How to Escape Mediocrity – Become Excellent – and Dominate Life
Have a Dream
“If you don’t have a dream, there’s no way to make one come true. “– Steven Tyler
You have to know what you want your life to be. You’re sick and tired of the same old bullshit. You’ve had enough of the average, run on the mill repetitive garbage and you are ready to make some changes.
But, what does that look like for you? Here are some things to keep in mind:
Make your Dream Big Enough to scare you, but still realistically achievable
If you want to build and excellent life you have to step out of your comfort zone. When you have a big dream you require yourself to grow in order to achieve it. You should often set goals outside your current comfort level and beyond your capabilities. This way you will have no choice but to grow into your big dream.
Make sure you see yourself as a changed person in your Big Dream
You’re picturing beach front mansions, sexy Italian sports cars, exotic vacations, and stacks of cash lying about the house. But, don’t make the mistake of forgetting to picture yourself in your big dream.
Remember, you are going to have to grow into your big dream. You, as you are at this moment, are not the kind of person who enjoys the level of success that you dream of. Therefore, it’s only logical to assume that the future you, the one who achieves big goals, looks different from the current you.
Are you in better shape? Are you happier?
- Realize that this dream will be the result of forming and sticking to new habits.
What does a typical day look like to you? (hint: it’s not waking up and sitting by the beach drinking margaritas all day, you’re probably working at your computer a lot).
Here’s an example:
I wake up and have a good stretch for 10 minutes. Then I sit quietly for 5 minutes and try to clear my mind.
I then get some coffee and spend 30 minutes reading something educational or inspirational (personal development books).
Next, I take out my anger motivation sheet and take a few moments to read it and make any necessary adjustments to it.
I then go to my workspace and spend at least two hours working on my online business.
I stop to take an exercise break. After a shower I have my first meal which consists of salad, grilled chicken, and a vegetable.
I go back to my workspace and work for an additional 1-3 hours. I take a break and go for a walk or a drive to clear my mind.
I come back home and have a snack of yogurt and fruit while I work yet again on my business for about another hour.
I take a break for a healthy dinner with my girlfriend. We then relax together either reading or just talking and enjoying each other’s company.
I read some more of whatever book I’m into until it’s time for bed. I stretch out for 10 minutes, read my goals sheet and go to bed.
Your typical day will look different than mine, but there should be some similarities.
Change what you feed your mind
” If you feed your mind as often as you feed your stomach, then you’ll never have to worry about feeding your stomach or a roof over your head or clothes on your back.” – Albert Einstein
Do you think this guy knew a thing or two about feeding one’s mind? I doubt very much that if Albert were alive today he’d be watching reality TV or reading tabloid magazines. Neither should you. Here are some suggestions:
- Quit watching TV
Trust me, you can live without watching TV. There are too many reasons to list in this article so I’ll just give you two:
- It’s a huge time suck. TV demands your attention and time and gives you nothing in return. That’s just bad business. Use that time to work on either yourself, or your business.
- It exists only to sell products. There is no other reason for television to exists. It’s an invasive platform that allows the manipulative, brain washing advertisers to infiltrate your very living room. TV perpetuates the consumerism mindset that keeps so many blue collar type folks entangled in the debt snare. Boot this interloper out of your house. When you’ve reached the level of success that you have envisioned for yourself you can always go back and watch whatever you want. TV will still be there; you won’t miss out on anything.
- Give up mainstream news
You should stop, immediately, reading newspapers and watching mainstream news broadcasts. The news is about 90% negative. Starting your day by filling your head with terrorism, natural disaster, drug epidemics, and murder is a sure way to kill both your motivation and creativity. Put something constructive in there instead.
Besides, has there ever been one thing that you read in a newspaper that actually helped you improve your life somehow? Probably not. It’s mostly useless shock value negativity used to increase viewership and, you guessed it, provide a platform for advertisements.
Do yourself a favor and drop the mainstream news.
- Read more self-improvement books
You should make daily investments in the low risk/high reward practice. Instead of beginning your day with the woe and misery of daily news try reading some uplifting and motivating personal development instead. I know that these types of book reek of bullshit to lunch pail types. Trust me, starting this habit will help change your outlook on life and set the tone for the entire day.
It’s really the best thing you can do to start your day.
- Read books that teach skills you will need. (creative writing, marketing, etc.)
In your pursuit of excellence, you’re going to have to develop some new skills. If you want to break into the upper realms of success, you will have to grow your skillset. It’s as simple as that.
Some of the skills you probably will need to acquire or improve are: writing, internet marketing, photo editing, working with outsourcers, creating products, etc.…
You should always be on the lookout for acquire new skills and sharpening the ones you already have.
Self-improvement never ends.
- Read some classic literature
Yes, I know, it’s already a lot of reading. But, try to make some room for the classics. They’re considered classic for a reason. That reason is that many of the greatest books ever written contain within them valuable life lessons.
I like to read these type of books before bed. I take my time with them, sometimes just reading a few pages a night.
Change who you associate with
“The key is to keep company only with people who uplift you, whose presence calls forth your best.” – Epictetus
This one goes hand in hand with feeding your mind. Hanging around complaining, whiny, criticizing, gossipy people plants a lot of negativity in your mind. It kills your drive and creativity. People like that comfort themselves by holding everybody to their level of misery. It’s only human, but it’s not necessary.
You alone have the power to determine who you spend your time with.
Whether they’re acquaintances, co-workers, long-time friends, or even family is irrelevant. Make no mistake about it, you’re fighting for your sanity here. Your very freedom is at stake. At the least limit the amount of time you have to be around them, at the most completely cut them out.
They’re not worthy of your time. That sounds like an arrogant thing to say. But, once again, the stakes are too high to worry that somebody’s feelings may get hurt.
Never mind about loyalty. People like this are loyal only to themselves. They only seek to deter and undermine your decision to improve your life because it makes them feel better about not trying. They’re too lazy or stupid to do it for themselves, so they adhere to a strategy of destruction.
You are on a path of construction and creativity.
You don’t need them, whoever they are.
Instead seek out go getters. Once you begin your journey of self-improvement you will find that you connect with a different type of person. You’ll find them busily working away on their laptops in coffee shops, voraciously reading at libraries, and carrying piles of books at bookstores. You’ll meet people like this in success type forums, like this one. You’ll find them at entrepreneurial type seminars and in night time classes.
They’re a different breed. They talk about ideas, goals, and strategies. They seem to be always busy and are pretty difficult to nail down. But, like you, they are always on the lookout to connect with like-minded people.
You’ll find that associating with this type of person is a lot different that than what you’re used to. The conversation is interesting, informative, and titillating. The vibe is one of hope and expectation, usually a stark contrast to the uninspired same-shit-different-day attitude of the average guy.
Commit to doing things that mediocre people don’t do
” The difference between who you are and who you become is what you do.” – unknown
It all comes down to what you do, or better yet, what you finish doing. Forget your time card, you’re not getting paid by the hour any more.
As an entrepreneur you only get paid for work that is completed.
So you better start spending your time completing shit.
- Spend your free time working on your own business (internet based is the best)
If you truly want to escape the rat race, then you’re going to have to spend the majority of your free time working on your own business.
There is no alternative. Nobody’s going to do it for you. You have full responsibility for your own success.
Winners spend time improving themselves and creating things that will eventually pay them. Mediocre people spend time consuming things that add nothing to their lives.
Make the switch.
- Take some risks that go against conventional thinking
Winners aren’t afraid to go out on a limb if it increases their chance at grabbing a juicy piece of fruit. Don’t be reckless, but taking calculated risks that your gut tells you to go for is a very “winner” thing to do.
Losers play it safe and wait for the low hanging fruit to drop to their level. Winners climb the tree and pluck the fruits of their choosing at the time of their choosing.
Don’t let fear of failure hold you back.
- Only engage in tasks that move you further toward your goal
Quit the time wasters. Focus on building your skill set, strengthening your mindset, and building your business. If you can ingrain this attitude into your daily decisions in a matter of a couple years your entire life will have changed.
And you’ll be much, much better off.
Adopt the mindset of Success
Successful entrepreneurs have several traits in common. Some of their beliefs and attitudes go against conventional wisdom. Keep in mind, conventional wisdom says you should work your job until your 60+ years old, then “enjoy” your golden years.
Fuck conventional wisdom, get used to this instead:
- Learn to be comfortable being uncomfortable
Learning new things, taking risks, spending free time working instead of relaxing might seem a little uncomfortable to you at first.
It’s not nearly as uncomfortable as sacrificing the best years of your life working a job you hate until you’re too old to enjoy doing anything.
Get used to discomfort. Growth is sometimes most times painful. If you want to change things you’re going to have to change you.
You’ll be reinforcing your self-discipline, which in turn will allow you to withstand longer periods of more discomfort.
It becomes a self-feeding loop of self-control and discipline building.
Just fight through the early days and continue to challenge yourself.
- Learn to look forward to failing (to gain experience)
Speaking of discomfort, does anything feel worse than failing?
Probably not, but get used to it. If you think you’re just going to have success after success on the first try, then you are being delusional. It’s about as likely as a major league ballplayer hitting a homerun every time at bat.
You don’t have to have the big hit every time, you just have to keep going until you have one.
Remember – one big hit might be enough to change your life FOREVER!
Shift your focus to outcomes. Detach any emotion and see failed attempts as learning experiences. By paring away at what doesn’t work you streamline your methods.
You’ll eventually be left with an efficient, effective process of achievement.
- Focus on Should vs. Want
When it comes to deciding what to do at any moment consider this. Focus on what you should be doing instead of what you want to be doing.
Example: I want to watch coma inducing reality TV. I should be starting my own website.
So there it is. A rough blueprint of how you can escape the sticky fly paper of mediocrity and free yourself of the habits, mindset, and people that keep you trapped there.
By now you understand that pursuing excellence requires a lot of sacrifice.
You also, no doubt, see that the rewards that the habits of excellence provide are much, much greater than the price they ask.
The bottom line is this –
Mediocre people work jobs, consume goods, waste time, and have mostly shitty lives.
Excellent people build businesses, create products and goods, invest their time, and have amazing, fulfilling lives.
You can live your life by the mediocrity definition, or by committing to the pursuit of excellence.
Which side do you belong to?